I wanted to pass along some wisdom about marriage I read on facebook recently. No, not anything I wrote, although I wish I had. What it has to say is so true about marriages that last. Even though we love each other deeply, and always have, there have been moments. Fortunately, we both were determined to overcome our human frailties and worked through those difficulties. Anyway, here is the article I enjoyed. I hope you do as well.
For all of you youngsters (and not so youngsters) so eager to call it quits and throw in the towel on your relationships because everything isn’t “perfect”...here is some food for thought.
Lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is. It's not waking up every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It's not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep, peacefully, at night. It's not a clean home filled with laughter and lovemaking, everyday.
It's someone who steals all the covers. It's slammed doors and a few harsh words, at times. It’s stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your hearts heal...and, then...forgiveness!
It's coming home to the same person, everyday, that you know loves and cares about you in spite of (and because of) who you are. It's laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It's about dirty laundry and unmade beds WITHOUT finger pointing. It's about helping each other with the hard work of life! It's about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud.
It's about eating the cheapest and easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at 10 p.m. to eat because you both had a crazy day. It's when you have an emotional breakdown and your Love lays with you and holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay...and you BELIEVE them. It's about still loving someone even though, sometimes, they make you absolutely insane.
Living with the person you love is not perfect...sometimes it's hard; but it's amazing and comforting and one of the BEST things you'll ever experience.